| This post is about my brother sort of.
We had a big talk of parents, of colleges, of songs, of the air force and army, of the peace corps and joining the ministry, bad drivers and coffee and everthing in between. Apparently he has a few more things figured out.
It started out with me asking if he would take me to go buy more blank cds b/c im burning every song i have to kazaa and deleting all of them on there. He said actually he was picking up an application @ home depot (using his own initiative *amazed*) and that he'd take me if i didnt mind waiting on him for about half an hour and if it was ok w/ mom. Of course it was ok. On the way, we talked about our parents, but seeing as how they read my site (supposedly), ill save that for another time.
Anyways, i wanted to know of his plan because i am a concerned sister and because the $$ he spends for college is mine and my moms too. So heres the deal... He wants to go to college, air force out (because of his eyes-he only wanted to be in it if he could fly), army in, he thought about going to seminary (he should be a catholic priest, he could handle it b/c hes never had a girlfriend haha jkjkjk if youre reading this ryan), which shocked me.
Then we talked about me and why it seems that the rents dont seem to respect me. Since he seems to think i am the coolest, smartest, most mature girl around, he didnt understand it a whole lot either, but said it was because i dont work around the house enough. "They would respect you and your opinions a lot more if you did more." The day they become content easier, the day i do more for the household. Ehhh im getting off track here.
The point is, lately ive been very frustrated with my brother. My parents have paid $6600 for 6 years for my brother to go to school, have spent over $10,000 on his car gas and insurance, $1200 for his computer, hes gotten a bad ass set of golf clubs for 2 years that hes never even touched. My point is, he gets all these things and doesnt deliver. His grades suck, he was supposed to pay for his computer, and he was supposed to pay for gas and help w/ insurance, but the truth of the matter is my brother is quite lazy.
Spending over $50,000 has amounted to nothing. Now, sending him to college, at least $15,000 a semester, why would he be expected to do well? That is our parents hard earned money and i dont want to see them sweat for nothing.
Despite all of this, I'm starting to be really proud of him. He's really grown up over the past couple of months, and its about damn time. He was saying to me today that i was reminding him so much of my mom and that scared me. I think the difference was i wasnt actually bitching, i was actually concerned. However, i did make it clear that very soon, he will need to pick a direction and that 6 years ago, he needed to fucking reciprocate what our parents were doing for him. Its not so much the money, even though that really is a big deal (im going to let the rents handle that one), its just, he needs to grow up. Hes 18 you know? If i were 18, i'd be out of here. I mean it. I have too much to do.
The fact that Ryan took the initiative to go pick up applications for another job (he didnt get fired, theyre just overstaffed), really impressed me. The fact he opened up about what he was doing did also and he told me a few secrets he's going to spring up on the rents that really impressed me also. I think brother dearest is finally growing up and its really making me happy.
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